Excellent advice. I've had to ask myself this question with respect to my mom, who was a critical parent, and a good friend of 30 years I had to let go of because her negative behavior was overwhelming me. It has allowed me to forgive mom and understand my friend's behavior better although I still have to maintain the boundary I set. It made me more compassionate and understanding of both of them and allowed me to let go of a lot of anger and hurt. Thanks for sharing!